When to Let Go: A Reflection on Friendship and Faith

How do you know when it's time to let go of people in your life? 

This question has been weighing heavily on my heart recently. It’s not easy to answer, but I’ve come to realize that the signs can manifest in various forms: the pain in my chest after certain conversations, the silence or emptiness when I need a comforting word but find my friends too busy with their own lives.

I’ve never been the type of friend to expect much from anyone. I believe in supporting those I care about in their times of need. However, there comes a point when you have to ask yourself if the pain and disappointment are worth it. Is it okay to continue allowing someone to hurt you simply because they didn't mean to or were upset? Or is it time to recognize that their actions, regardless of intent, are causing harm?

Scripture provides some guidance on this matter. Proverbs 27:17 says, "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." True friends should uplift and strengthen us, not leave us feeling used or broken. Moreover, 1 Corinthians 15:33 warns, "Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’" If a relationship is leading you away from peace and joy, it might be time to reconsider its place in your life.

The Importance of Support and Communication

While constant communication isn’t necessary for a strong friendship, it does help nourish and strengthen the relationship, especially when one of the parties is in need. God calls us to support one another. Galatians 6:2 instructs us to "Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ." It can be difficult to always put others first, but that should be our intention as Christians. Giving more than receiving is a fundamental principle of love and friendship.

However, it’s tough when someone’s actions don’t measure up to their words, and those actions start affecting you negatively. The feeling of being used is not a good one to have. Relationships should not necessarily be 50/50, but there should be mutual respect and care. When those elements are missing, and you find yourself repeatedly hurt, it’s worth considering if this is a relationship God wants you to continue.

God's Purpose and Timing

One thing is for sure: God knows what He is doing. Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us, "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens." People come into our lives for a purpose, and sometimes that purpose is to teach us valuable lessons about ourselves and our faith. When friendships end in heartbreak, it can feel like God is trying to show us something important.

I’ve been grieving the loss of certain friendships and trying to heal from them. It’s a painful process, but I’ve reached a breaking point. It’s time for me to prioritize my well-being and focus on my relationship with God. Jeremiah 29:11 assures us, "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Trusting in God’s plan can help us let go of relationships that no longer serve us.

Moving Forward with Faith

In these past few months, I’ve struggled with these feelings. Writing this blog is not about crushing anyone’s spirit but about sharing my journey and struggles. Holding onto these emotions only hurts me more in the long run. I strongly believe that no one is here to stay; there are no coincidences. Each experience teaches us something valuable.

I pray that God continues to work on my heart and removes anything that causes it to harden. I want to continue being a caring friend to those He puts in my life. Psalm 51:10 is my prayer: "Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me."

Thank you for reading and joining me on this journey. If you’ve been struggling with similar feelings, remember that it’s okay to let go and trust in God’s plan for your life. He will bring the right people into your life at the right time. Stay strong in your faith, and take care of your heart.

Blessings,

Monica